Hi, My name is Sheila and I am your friend... that sounds weird doesn't it.

Well over the years I have been someone that has been there for friends and always had a form of advise to their problems one way or the other, so by popular demand from my friends and people that i have helped, i created this blog where you can ask me questions and i can answer them. Actually you email me your problems and I'll put them up here with my reply...your identity will be kept private..the point of this is that there are other people who are out there that may be going through the same problem that you are going through and reading this would help them a lot.

Also people can send me emails or post responses of their comments and contributions to a previous situation.

You can send your questions to dearmisssheila@yahoo.com

So here's our first situation from a certain Keabi* in the USA

Dear She-She,
I am a pretty young guy and I have never really been a real relationship. After a couple of years in America, i put on a lot of weight and that has affected my self-esteem, i do have a lot of female friends but no one really sees me as a boyfriend type and I think it's because of my weight. So my question is how do i get girls to see me as a boyfriend material and not just a friend?

Keabi

Re:
Keabi,
Your case is quite common, the first step would be to be boost your self-esteem, if you think that your self-esteem is dependent on your weight then I would suggest you find out ways to lose weight, definitely not by starvation because that never helps but by good diet and if possible exercise. A lot of times, the reason why most girls see guys as a friend material not a boyfriend material is because the guy gets too close, this is also the same with girls that are trying to get close to guys. The moment you get so close to them and it's not in an intimate way then count yourself as a friend. That does not mean you should not be a friend, it just means to know your boundaries if you plan more than friendship with the ladies.

I hope i was able to answer your question but watch out for other people's response they may have something better to say.


Well, that would be it for now, if you have any questions or you need someone to listen to you and talk to you just email dearmisssheila@yahoo.com and i would reply same day (promise).... do not post them because comments are meant for replies concerning a particular situation and not to start a new one.

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