I do apologize for not being able to write earlier...i just moved to Nigeria and I am still settling in and getting a hang of my unreliable internet service here at home... I have a couple of emails and messages sent to me but i like to focus on each case one at a time... and remember the names used here are not their real names...





Dear Sheila,



I recently graduated from school and I am finding it hard to figure out what i want to do with my life. I have the degree that I always wanted to get or so I thought, right now i've realized that I do not have the drive to pursue the profession that I spent four years of my life studying in college. I guess I never really liked it from the start but I went ahead with it because of my parents.



I know this may be a tough question but how do I find my purpose at this point when it looks so late?



Thanks



Susan



My response



Dear Susan,



You are not the only one that is going through this situation I can assure you of that. See the problem that most parents do is trying to live the life that they did not live while they were younger through their kids. Most times they do this by demanding what they want you to study in school and what they basically want you to be but never really asking what you may want to be in life.



Susan, for you to find your purpose, you have to define who you are as a person. What are your likes and dislikes? Using myself as an example, Sheila is someone that cannot stand blood so there is no way Sheila can ever become a doctor, Sheila lacks patience sometimes so Sheila cannot be a teacher for children, maybe a professor but never a teacher. That is really the beginning of defining who you are and what profession suits you, unfortunately you have spent 4 years in school doing something you did not want to do but it's not too late to figure out what it is that you like and pursue it, because if you work without a passion for your job, you will get weary and eventually life would become a routine.



Also, as much as we try to please our parents, learn to stand your ground in certain things that you have a conviction about and not end up with a future full of regrets.





She-She